After more than 3 years in Second Life, it is not surprising I have quite a long ‘friends list’. Even though I clean it up every now and then, to delete people I really can’t remember, it is still a long list.
Evaluating this list last night, and the (sad?) conclusion is that I have 4 real, close and lovely friends.
The other people on my list are not friends. They are (overall nice) people I met somewhere and chatted with, (potential) members of our group, people I have helped when they were new and lots of fighters and colleague clanleaders.
Wouldn’t it be great to have the option to divide the ‘friends list’? Into : ‘friends’ and ‘contacts ?’ Or create your own groups in that list?
It is no secret that I would love to have more, real, friends. Maybe I try to hard and that’s why I still end up alone most evenings online. I don’t know.
I cannot expect from my real friends that they hangout with me when I am online all the time, or chat in IM when I login. I always say hello to a very few when I login though. Just because I am polite.
I don’t expect them to immediately TP to me or make me TP to them! Just a ‘hello, how are you ..’.
Anyway. There are also others. People that IM me immediately when I login. Most of them do bother to say ‘Hi and how are you today?‘ then followed by a request for help. (help with textures, help with viewer, help with clothing, help with modifying hair, asking for a LM, questions about buying land, questions for somebody else…etcetera).
Yeah, Cait helps and answers and does research if she does not know the answer right away. I guess they know. Or expect.
And lately it got worse, I never realised until I was browsing through my list. Some of them do not even say ‘hi’ but just throw their help-request in my IM. And what does Cait do? She helps and she answers.
To be honest, it’s not funny anymore. I am apparently only good as a helpdesk but not for the fun stuff ? After the problem is solved, the chat is closed. With or without a ‘thanks’.
Knowing myself, I find it impossible to ignore questions….so maybe untick them, so they don’t see me come online? Mute? Delete from list? I dunno…really.
It’s a stupid dilemma, I know. Why should I bother? They probably do not even like me!