“Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters cannot be trusted with important matters” ― Albert Einstein

The other night I was inworld, listening to my own playlist on iTunes and posing for some pictures – just for the fun of it. It relaxes me. In the right of my screen was one of the many group chats going on and every now and then I read what it was all about.
At some point the discussion – as far as I followed it – was about blogging and then someone said, and I am paraphrasing  ‘I wished I could blog in all honestly, but that would get me banned from a lot of places‘.

Let this sink in for a minute.

The responses were..well nihil, as if this is a common thing.

Personal space

I am aware reviews are subjective and, for instance in my case, one can choose to only blog positive reviews. I do that. If I don’t like a location or artwork, I will simply not blog about it. This doesn’t mean my blog isn’t honest. It is. But when it comes to reviewing items, clothing or whatnot – because one is an ‘official blogger’ for a brand, how far will you go? Write positive reviews only, never pointing out flaws or giving less favourable feedback, out of fear to get banned from a store, place or not getting review items or early access to events?

It is a tricky topic. I am an independent blogger, I never apply to blog for a specific brand or event . The only exception being the Fantasy Faire – for which I do photo work of the builds, and in the past I have blogged about a sim I didn’t really understand and said so in my post.
Also,  I have spoken to the organisation a few times and apologised for not taking pics of some locations, because it simply didn’t do it for me. I do not receive free items as part of a deal. Yes, sometimes creators/designers send me releases, but never on my request and I only use them when it suits my work.

Waiting for back-up

Do I wish I could blog honestly?
I do that already, by being independent. I choose to only blog positive, because it suits me better – and not out of fear of getting banned.
I wonder how often I may have read blog posts that were, in the end, truly dishonest – and only written to please the creator who send items to said blogger or gave other incentives in turn for a nice review.

Blogging honestly does not mean one has to be nasty and negative. You can write reviews with feedback other than ‘you need this in your life’. It is about wording and..being honest. Not blogging about it, is honesty as well. But don’t make up stuff. Do not lie. Just don’t.

The random photos I used in this blogpost are shot in the office space of Huckleberry Hax’s Nancy Redgrave Building.
Which is, in all honesty..a supercool building with lots of spaces for photo-shoots, if you are into the 70’s :)

The lingerie is from Luxuria and I purchased it at the current Nerds ‘n Geeks event.

In the mood for some SL exploring, I ended up at Hunting Hollows. Yeah, it is a Halloween themed sim, but a pretty cool one for just wandering around – even when you are not into Halloween.
Upon landing you are offered a folder which contains a flashlight, handy…because the place is quite dark. Very dark.

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Of course it has creepy and spooky things, including a horror-clown which spits out colourful particles when you get close by. Perhaps to not relate to the real life horror-clowns?

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Anyway, a nice place for taking pictures and play with other windlights than the region setting, and since I prefer my Second Life usually bright and sunny, I turned this dark and depressing woods into a lovely, summer-like picnic spot!

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SLURL: Hunting Hollows

You know that feeling, you go on about your life and stuff and one day it is summer and the next it’s autumn and some weeks have passed by? I’ve had a couple of those weeks lately, those weeks I had all kind of plans and before I knew it, it wasn’t Monday anymore but Friday happened! And so I didn’t blog, but surely things have happened!

So time for a little catch-up and let me tell you what has been going on in my Second Life!

I’ve been a member of SL Blogger Support inworld group since a few years, a group for SL Bloggers in which we exchange experiences, help each-other with all sort of blog-problems and whatnot. We also have a website, a Facebook page and a Plurk account.
From being a member, I went to contributing articles on the website as guest-author and eventually I became part of the Team, the lovely group of people making this group and all it’s online presence possible. Over the past year I gotten into chats with Katya Valeska, the founder of SL Blogger Support and she has expressed to me her concerns about the amount of time and energy she had, due to Real Life, when it came to the group. I have taken over some of the things she used to do, like answering questions and being a point of contact and handling the applications.

Last week Katya decided she needed to step down as owner and ‘leader’ of SL Blogger Support and she handed over the keys to me. While it may have come as a surprise to some, it wasn’t to me – Katya and I have talked about this option before.
I agreed and so Katya sent a notice and posted her formal ‘goodbye’. Not a real, final, goodbye, as she will still be active as a group-member, but she will no longer be in charge of the overall management of the group.


Diving into a new challenge!

To my surprise I have gotten a lot of messages. Mostly nice and supportive ones and I thank everyone for their kind comments! I also got lots of questions about what my ‘next steps’ will be and ‘what are you going to change’.

I can be short on that.

For now I have no ‘next steps’ planned, nor ‘changes’. Katya built a wonderful community and a great support Team and I see, for now, no reason to fix what ain’t broken!

Sure times will change and things will happen, but we will see it when it is needed. We have a great group of bloggers and a dedicated Team behind the scenes and I am confident we will be able to continue to give each-other support, help, have fun and all of that which we had the past years!

So that’s whatskeburt (Dutch slang for ‘wtf happened!’) in my SL.

Yes. A post about Halloween. By me. Shocking eh? Since I am probably one of the very few in Second Life who does not particularly like or even care about Halloween much.

Linden Lab announced in a blogpost by Xiola Linden, a call for photos depicting your Halloween Spirit. They will choose some of the photos that you can submit in their official Flickr group, to use in various marketing and advertising campaigns.
For all the details on sizes, format, hashtags and layout, please read this post by Xiola!

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When I was 4 years old and went to Kindergarten, I met my BFF in that class (though we didn’t call it ‘BFF’ back then) and her and I were like twin sisters. For years. Over 20 years. We lived two streets away from each-other and spent all our time together.

We grew up together in the same small village, the same schools (classes even) and when our ways parted in education- I went to college and she found a job – we were still BFF’s. She got married and so did I  and then …well, things and life happened.

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A great offer if you are a fan of Huckleberry Hax’ books! And if you have not read them yet…I can highly recommend his ‘AFK‘ series –  murder, suspense, love and lust;  all in Second Life! Nope..I will not spoil anything about the latest release in this series, you should read it yourself! Enjoy!


What the Huck?


I’m drawing the AFK series to a close with a fifth and final novel, AFK, Awaiting. The book has been finished for a few months, now, and I’m grateful to the feedback I’ve had since from a small number of advance readers, in particular Caitlin Tobias and Zoe Parness (Zoe very helpfully pointed out that I’d managed to spell the name of one of my key characters wrong throughout the book – this is why a writer needs fans).  I now want to reward my most loyal readers also with a free copy.

Some of you might recall my attempt at soliciting reviews last year by promising not to release this title until I’d acquired no less than 100 reviews for the fourth AFK novel, AFK, in Pursuit of Avengement.  I’m not quite done with that plan yet.  It did occur to me, however, that I might…

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Over the past years I started some groups on Flickr – with themes. Just for fun, so people could add their photo’s that fitted in the same theme and so create some wonderful collections for all to enjoy.

While it was fun at first, it became a burden  – specially the past 2 years. Oh, there were lovely contributions and wonderful photos added to the groups but for each picture that suited and followed the ‘rules/guidelines’ there were dozens of pics that had NOTHING to do with the groups theme. The dozens soon turned into hundreds and I had to set my groups to ‘moderated’, meaning I had to manually approve each photo.
A drag and a burden. Thousands….of pics that were blindly added to the groups: ads, porn, vendor-images and blog-pics with no connection to the theme whatsoever. Nothing.

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